There is no such thing as a bad day. Only bad moments in a day. I choose to be positive. Some people choose to be negative. I don’t judge them, it’s their choice. Just like it’s my choice to be positive. We always hear what’s wrong with the world. On the news. People like to talk about what’s wrong. We never hear what’s right with the world.
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Every problem or negative situation that life throws at me I try to approach with a positive mind.
When I lost both my mother and father to cancer between 2002 and 2003, It was one of the hardest years of my life. Losing both of them in a year was very devastating. I was taking care of my mom and trying to greive my dad at the same time.
In this very difficult time I just knew no matter how sad I was, negative thinking was only gonna make things work. It would be like pouring gasoline on a fire. I felt bad enough and I didn’t want to make it worse. I didn’t want to make this about me. I had my mom to take care of. She was really sick, just like my dad had been and I wanted to be strong for her.
Sometimes we don’t think about how hard it must be for the other person. My mother needed to know I was strong and there for her. She needed to know that her son was going to be ok with her dieing. My hope was if she had that support then she could face dieing herself, which can be extremely hard all on it’s own.
I didn’t want any added pressure and this was a very good example of how to reduce stress with positive thinking.
Another good example is when I was diagnosed with Cancer in 1995. I had two major surgeries and chemotherapy. A battle that lasted almost two years and almost killed me. Honestly from day one, I just knew that there was no room for negative thinking. Things were the opposite from what I was going to be faced with, my parents seven years later.
I was sick and everyone around me was sad. I was comforting them. Telling them that I was going to be ok. I wasn’t sure I was gonna be ok. I wasn’t being told that I was gonna be ok. The cancer spread three different times and I just took it one moment at a time. One operation at a time. One round of chemotherapy at a time.
Twenty four years later I didn’t realize how much my positive thinking helped me beat Cancer. It’s only in these recent days with all the medical advancements that we have, that I realize how important and what a big role positive thinking played In dealing with cancer for both me and my parents.
Stop Negative Self-Talk
We can definitely be our own worst enemy. We’re constantly putting ourselves down. Is it because our expectations are too high? Is it because we care to much what other people think? Yes!! and I’m sure there are many other reasons.
Let’s talk about ways to quiet the mind when it comes to negativity. It’s ok to have a little constructive critism when it comes to yourself, but there is a big difference from working on yourself and putting yourself down into complete failure.
If you’re always beating yourself up then you’re never building yourself up. We are what we eat, and we are what we think.
Instead of looking at what you didn’t do. Start looking at what you did do. Instead of looking at what you didn’t finish. Start looking at what you did finish. It’s a choice. How you feel about yourself is how you are going to act. Be proud of what you do. You need to become your own best friend. We wouldn’t talk to strangers the way we talk to ourselves sometimes.
Stop caring what other people think. When someone puts you down or talks negative about you. You know whether it’s constructive critism or not. They are just expressing there opinion which always stems from their own issues and insecurities. Friends don’t do this so take it for what it is worth and let it go.
Starting now, be aware of self-talk. Evertime it starts to become negative. Catch it and replace it with positive-talk. You will be amazed what it can do for you.
Change your mind and change your life.
Health Benefits to Positve Thinking
- Longer Life
- Reduces Stress
- Reduces Anxiety
- Better Immune System
- Reduces Risk of Heart Disease
- Reduces Risk of Cancer
- Better Relationships
- More Confidence
- Higher Self Esteem
- More Self Respect
The list goes on, but generally over all just happier. This is a great list of health benefits. I could make a list for negative thinking but essentially it would be pretty much the opposite of the list above. A not so happy life with health issues.
How to Think Positive
Change. I know this is hard. I wasn’t always positive. In fact, I had a lot of hardship. I was in active addiction until I was 25 years old. Sometimes when we go through enough turmoil it brings on a great desire to change. Change is when we are sick and tired of being sick and tired. When we realize we are miserable and this isn’t working anymore. We will change.
Not everyone has to hit rock bottom. Some people are just not optimistic by nature. Some people are negative but realize much sooner that they are unhappy with how things are going in there life.
Fake it until you make it. If you really want this then try it out. We are creatures of habit. Start thinking positive, even if it’s against your better judgment. You will be surprised with what will happen.
Its impossible to have two frames of minds at one time. The next time you find yourself thinking negative. Take a moment. Take a deep breath and put a smile on your face. I don’t care if it’s a fake smile. Keep this big fake smile on your face and try to be negative. I know it sounds silly but try it. Remember you can’t take the smile of your face. IT’s hard to be negative when you have a smile on your face. Even a fake one.
Our minds and body are connected. We only have one frames of mind at any given time. Choose positive thinking when ever you can.
I hope you enjoyed this post as much as I enjoyed writing it.
Any questions or comments please leave them below and I will get back to you. Let’s do this all together.
Together we can all stress less.